Namita Mehta, President, The Red Pen, Mumbai

You may have grown up in a big Indian city and speak English fluently. Chances are, you’ve been to the US a couple of times for holidays and have probably grown up on Hollywood movies, knowing which TV character says, “How you doin’ ”. Your experiences might lead you to believe
that college and living in the US is a cakewalk, but it will take you by surprise. The second your flight takes off, you’ll feel a rush of excitement—no curfews, no one checking in on your whereabouts, and complete freedom to make your own choices. But here’s the catch: with freedom comes responsibility, and that can be a bit unnerving. But once you read some of the things I’m about to share, you’ll be off to a smoother start.

1) Balancing your deadlines with the dancefloors: College life is a whirlwind—your grades won’t hinge on one big scary exam, but a steady stream of essays, projects, and tests will challenge you. Meanwhile, your social calendar will be just as packed with clubs, dorm hangouts, and campus events. Procrastinating work might seem fun—until it’s 3 AM and you’re panic-writing an entire research paper. The trick? Stay on top of work and pick activities you genuinely enjoy. You’re not starring in the sequel of Everything Everywhere All at Once, so you don’t have to be present for every gig.

2) Learn Americanisms: They will save you from some funny mix-ups! For starters, don’t run for cover when someone screams “shotgun” before a drive. They aren’t pulling out a weapon. They are just claiming the front seat of the car. Also, if someone asks for your “John Hancock,” they’re
not introducing you to a guy named John—they just want your signature.

3) US food – expect surprises: In the US, meat means beef unless stated otherwise—many international students only realise this after weeks of mystery meals! The Freshman 15 sneaks up fast. Thanks to buffets, desserts, and whole milk, you’ll quickly gain 15 pounds if you’re not careful. Also ordering a sandwich at Subway will feel like an exam with endless bread, cheese, and milk options. Read menus, pace yourself, and maybe skip the ranch dressing!

4) Expect two Americas: Most Americans you’ll meet will be warm and welcoming. But occasionally, a person allergic to diversity might cross your path, but don’t live in fear. These people are few and more often seen on social media and specific news channels than in person.

5) Exit the privilege parade: Household help is a luxury, not a norm. Talking about your chauffeurs and maids will make you look like a brat. Also, ditch the word servant—it’s offensive. Learn basic chores like laundry and bed-making before you leave, unless you enjoy mixing whites with colours. Also remember, many Americans only know India through poverty stats and outdated stereotypes, so expect some odd questions. Instead of taking offense, educate—even if someone asks if you’ve ever seen a potato.

6) Toilet paper and titles—adjust accordingly: Using toilet paper is non-negotiable—wet wipes will be your best friend, trust me. While you’re adjusting, drop the “sir,” “madam,” “uncle,” and “aunty.” In the US, most people (including professors) prefer being addressed as Mr., Mrs. or Miss. Some may even prefer first names. However, Indian-origin folks might still expect the old-school honorifics.

7) Pack smart: Bring your stationery from India—it’s better quality than what you’ll find at Walmart or campus stores. But skip Indian winter wear; they won’t survive the brutal cold (or the campus fashion scene). Instead, buy them in the US during the Fall sales. But don’t forget at least one Indian outfit—you’ll need it for cultural events, and showing up in jeans will make you stick out like a sore thumb.

8) Roommate roulette: Your roommate could be your best friend—or the reason you start wearing noise-canceling headphones 24/7. Set ground rules early, respect each other’s space, and remember that communication can prevent war.

9) Beating homesickness: You might start missing home (and your mom’s cooking) sooner than expected. But you’ll get over it with time. Video calls help. If you do not have an internship, come home for summer and winter break and let your parents spoil you silly. You could also visit that
long-lost uncle in New Jersey on the weekends. Meanwhile, American kids get legendary care packages—think homemade brownies, ramen, and winter gear. Remind your parents to send you care packages. You may get a sweater you left behind, your favourite dry snacks, and a “Hope
you’re eating well” note. Doesn’t matter—getting these boxes just feels good.

10) Stay out of trouble and in one piece: If you’re under 21, don’t expect to charm your way past drinking laws (and no, your parents can’t bail you out). Avoid protests and demonstrations. On days when you’re feeling under the weather, physically or mentally, make the most of the medical and mental health services on campus. While most college towns are safe, don’t be careless. Know your emergency contacts, use campus security when needed, and trust your instincts. Be street smarts because “I didn’t know” won’t make a great excuse!

At the end of the day, college is what you make of it. Be open to new experiences, make wise choices, and don’t stress too much—everyone is figuring it out as they go. Just remember: Have fun, learn a lot, and don’t forget to call your parents occasionally!

Also read: Finding a way: The Tale of Determined Indian Students Studying Abroad