Payal Narang
Payal Narang is a Mumbai-based child psychologist and mom influencer @Playfulparenthood
My son (8) recently lost his grandmother to cancer. How can we help him process this grief?
—Tara Shivani, Delhi
Helping your son process grief starts with creating a safe space for him to express his emotions. Encourage him to talk about his feelings, but don’t force conversations—let him express his grief in his own way, whether through words, drawings, or play. Ensure his daily routine is as steady as possible to provide a sense of stability but also allow flexibility when he needs to take a break. Share memories of his grandma, emphasizing that it’s okay to feel sad, confused, or even angry. If he struggles to open up, encourage him to read books or gentle stories about death/loss and coping. Most importantly, reassure him that he has your full support and love and of the family, teachers, and professional support, if he needs it.
How can I encourage curiosity and love of learning in my children, who are constantly surrounded by digital distractions?
— Shalika Varma, Mumbai
You can encourage curiosity and love of learning by making exploration a natural part of children’s everyday lives. Set aside screen-free time for hands-on activities such as reading or outdoor play. Ask open-ended questions to spark their imagination and let them take the lead in finding answers. Use technology wisely — choose educational apps and videos that inspire creativity rather than just passive viewing. Encourage real-world experiences such as visiting museums, cooking a meal, or conducting simple science experiments at home. Most importantly, exhibit excitement for learning yourself — children emulate parental behaviour.
What are some practical ways to nurture a child’s independence in overprotective urban households?
— Rida Nasreen, Chennai
In overprotective urban households, nurturing a child’s independence starts with small, everyday choices. Let her make age-appropriate decisions such as choosing clothes or planning a simple meal. Teach her essential life skills, such as tying shoelaces, packing the school bag, or spending pocket money. Encourage safe outdoor experiences, like walking short distances under supervision or running small errands in the neighbourhood. Assign children responsibilities at home, like setting the table, feeding a pet to build their confidence. Resist the urge to step in immediately when they struggle to solve problems. Most importantly, create a supportive home environment where mistakes are regarded as learning opportunities, not failure.
My husband and I work full-time. Our trusted house-help who has worked with us for several years is about to retire. How can we build my daughter’s trust in a new caregiver/domestic help?
— Myra Kriti, Hyderabad
Building a child’s trust in a new caregiver takes patience and consistency. Start by gently introducing your daughter to the caregiver, allowing her to observe your interactions with her. Spend time together in a familiar setting so she associates the caregiver with a safe environment. Encourage small bonding activities, such as reading a book or playing a simple game together, to create positive associations. Respect her feelings if she is hesitant; don’t force interactions. Reinforce trust by maintaining routines and ensuring the caregiver follows your child’s preferences. Most importantly, lead by example — when your daughter sees you treat the caregiver with warmth and respect, she is more likely to feel secure and trust her.
