Shubhada Shekar
My three-year-old daughter was recently diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder (ASD). We are consulting a child psychologist. It’s becoming very challenging to cope with the situation. Please help. — Kshiti Mehta, Delhi
Parenting a child with autism is not easy. I recommend the following:
Educate yourself. Research and educate yourself about ASD. The more you know about ASD, the easier it will become to understand and relate to your daughter’s behaviour.
Consistency and routine. Be consistent with your child’s routine and encourage learning by repetition. This will provide her a sense of security and well-being.
Self-care. Parents of children with special needs often neglect their own needs. Make time for self-care by requesting extended family/ friends to help out, and/or rescheduling your child’s classes or therapies.
Remember that every child with autism is unique. Consult a healthcare professional to develop a customised plan that addresses your daughter’s specific needs and strengths.
My son is 17 months old. However he doesn’t point to anything, and if we ask him to do it, he turns his face away and stops responding. He is also uncommunicative. When I take him to the park, he wants to play alone. Please advise —Risha Parek, Mumbai
When toddlers don’t display common, expected early childhood behaviour, it’s important to identify and investigate the problem. Early intervention, assessment and treatment are invaluable. Consult a pediatrician, child psychologist or child development specialist. They will assess and determine if your son’s behaviour is within the range of typical development or further evaluation is required. Every child is unique, and professional guidance offers the best course of action. Active intervention leads to good results in the long run, so don’t hesitate to consult a professional.
My seven-year-old daughter has autism spectrum disorder (ASD). She has been undergoing therapy since the age of four. Now she is somewhat adjusting to a normal school routine. However I feel I can do more to help her do well in school. Please advise —Tina Deshpande, Bengaluru
With therapy and interventions, it’s possible for autistic children to do well in school. Here are some simple ways you can help her:
Visual aids. Abstract concepts may be difficult for her to understand. Use visual aids to help her learn, remember and understand. For example, a visual representation of numbers using an abacus will make it easier for her to understand counting.
Positive reinforcement. An autistic child may need much more encouragement than others, which she may not receive in school. Constantly recognise and praise her efforts and encourage her to do better.
Sensory sensitivities. Be observant and vigilant. If she is experiencing difficulty in crafts, sports or other activities due to sensory problems, inform her teacher that she needs additional attention.
Social skills. Encourage her to learn from and develop social skills of classmates.
My child is autistic. It’s becoming challenging…Play and engagement. Your child needs to engage in a variety of play activities that boost fine motor and coordination skills.
(Shubhada Shekar is a child counsellor, Christ Nagar Junior School, Trivandrum)
Also read: Understanding autism spectrum disorder
