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Teaching children to learn from failure

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Usha Rani

                                 Usha Rani

Usha Rani is a Bengaluru-based child psychologist and founder of I Hear You Counseling Centre

I want my 12-year-old daughter to embrace failure and reduce her fear of making mistakes. Please advise.

— Risha Sehgal, Mumbai

Here are some strategies to help your daughter to learn to cope with failure:

  • Emphasize that mistakes and failures are essential for growth and learning.
  • Share stories of your failures, demonstrating that everyone makes mistakes.
  • Praise her effort, persistence, and progress, rather than achievements only.
  • Support her to take calculated risks, to develop her confidence.
  • Acknowledge and empathise with her frustration when she experiences failure or disappointment.
  • Encourage her to have a growth mindset — that abilities and intelligence can be developed through dedication and hard work.
  • Encourage her to reflect on her mistakes, identifying what went wrong and how to improve.

 

We live in an apartment on the first floor and don’t have access to a garden or a terrace. Please suggest ways to encourage independent play and creativity in my two children.

— Dhatri Reddy, Chennai

  • Allocate a specific area in the flat for play and creativity, even if it’s a small corner or a shelf. This zone can stock art supplies and imaginative play materials/toys such as building blocks, Lego, dolls, etc.
  • You should also encourage conversations with your children, asking open-ended questions that prompt curiosity. Regulate children’s digital screen time as it hinders creativity and imagination. Encourage creative activities such as painting, drawing, and arts and craft.
  • Allow children to take calculated risks and make mistakes. This develops problem-solving skills, resilience, and confidence. Engage children in storytelling activities.
  • By implementing these strategies, you can develop a culture of creativity and independence in your children.

How can I guide my 13-year-old daughter to make positive choices and not succumb to peer pressure?

— Yamini Jitender, Bengaluru

Encourage open communication, role-play, value-based discussions, and positive peer relationships. Set clear rules and boundaries, and develop emotional intelligence, problem-solving skills, and self-esteem to empower her to make positive choices and develop the confidence to navigate peer pressure in highly social school environments.

How can I ensure that my eight-year-old, who is always enthusiastic about enrolling in a new activity, is not overwhelmed by extracurricular activities?

— Lavni Sharma, Delhi

Ensuring children balance extracurricular activities with their overall well-being is crucial for their physical, emotional, and mental health. Here are some ways to prevent her from being overwhelmed while nurturing her interests and talents:

  • Acquire a clear understanding of your daughter’s priorities, including academics, family time, and personal interests.
  • Encourage her to try new activities but don’t force her into commitments.
  • Restrict the number of extracurricular activities to one or two per season, allowing her time to focus on activities in which she excels.
  • Ensure she has ample free time for relaxation, play, and spontaneity.
  • Watch for signs of burnout, such as fatigue, decreased motivation, and stress.
  • Teach her the importance of balancing activities with rest, socializing, and personal time.
  • Provide her with choices and encourage her to make her own decisions.
  • Role model and demonstrate a healthy balance between work, leisure, and personal activities in your life.
  • Schedule quality family time, ensuring she feels loved and supported.
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