Parenting in the age of anxiety: raising children in india in the 21st century Abha Adams Aleph book company Rs.399 Pages 224 Well-known K-12 educator Abha Adams discusses the challenges and choices parents face, and must make, while raising children in these fractious times Abha Adams’ reputation as India’s pre-eminent educationist precedes her, and for good reason. As a pioneering force in education, among her many accomplishments, her instrumental contribution in the setting up of the country’s iconic institutions, widely regarded as schools that are centres of excellence — Shri Ram schools & Step by Step — themselves speak volumes of her knowledge and insights. In a life dedicated to education, her enduring and distinguished career began as a student at Delhi’s Lady Shri Ram College. Abha Adams is the embodiment of wisdom, a fountainhead of an all-encompassing philosophy of teaching and parenting with contemporary relevance, more pressing and urgent than ever. It is in this very real context, against a backdrop of severe identity-crisis and a loss-of-self, that Adams’ book Parenting in the Age of Anxiety (PITAA), becomes pertinent, immediately applicable, and serves as a valuable guide to parents, caregivers, guardians, teachers, mentors and principals. The book’s cover is disarmingly simple, but the content is potent. Adams discusses the challenges and choices parents face, and must make, while raising children in these fractious times. Parents, teachers, counsellors, child psychologists, psycho-therapists, family therapists, and most importantly, children share their first-hand experiences in this book. Besides confronting challenges like early puberty, advancing adolescence, and fitting in with friends to the pain points of teenage years, PITAA also addresses present-day issues like mental health and well-being and problems of raising children with special needs. Critical issues like substance abuse, self-harm, sexual orientation, suicide, and teenage pregnancies, which are usually brushed under the carpet, are discussed at length. Among a slew of self-help books, there are some key differentiators that make PITAA stand head and shoulders above the rest. First, Adams is an author who represents an educated, deeply insightful amalgam of real-world, current and relevant experience. The value of career-academics is unquestionable. However, in her case, theoretical knowhow is supplemented by extensive practical, hands-on experience. Second, the author is successfully able to share case histories and offer solutions to three distinct audience-sets directly — parents, educators and students. Third, the most crucial age-range whilst raising children is also addressed: from birth to teenage years. Simply written, yet thorough, this succinct book is a treasure of observations and result-oriented suggestions. Fourth, it presents a very nuanced understanding of behaviour, triggers, circumstances, stimuli, and resulting manifestations; born from which are solutions bedrocked in a winning merger of practicality and prudence. The cornerstone of civilisation is not science; it is language. Adams elucidates this critical point by going to the very source of technology when she shares that all tech magnates, from the pioneering Bill Gates to the eccentric genius Elon Musk, ensure that their own children have no access to tech products for the…
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Corruption in education — India & China
Indulging in corrupt practices in China has become highly risky. The anti-corruption drive launched by Xi Jinping be it in the education sector, military or the party itself, hasn’t spared anybody What unseated the Bharatiya Janata Party (BJP) from power in Karnataka? The widespread perception, well-grounded in reality, that it was indeed a “40% commission sarkar” in the state. Bribe-taking had permeated every office of government. I say this out of personal experience. Three years ago, I persuaded a philanthropic organisation to make a significant donation to the school my wife and I studied in. Located in Athani in North Karnataka, it bears her grandfather’s name because he had established it a century ago. We were keen to set up a new English-medium school in the same premises named after her late father. The school management agreed. However, for two long years, the agreement couldn’t be implemented because permission for renaming the school didn’t come from the relevant office of the education ministry. Reason: Babus wanted their palms greased. People in Karnataka know of far worse cases of corruption in the education system. Without paying bribes, one cannot set up a medical college or even get permission to increase the number of seats in education institutions. The situation is far worse in government-run universities. Persons without required qualifications and competence are appointed Vice Chancellors on payment of bribes running into crores. “How do they earn this money back in an education institution?” I asked a well-informed editor of a Kannada newspaper. “Simple,” he said. “The VC gets a commission from construction contracts and purchases for the university. Often, contractors and suppliers are asked to jack up prices, so the incremental commission is shared with higher authorities, including ministers. Even lecturers and professors have to pay bribes to be recruited in government colleges.” Other states in India also have a similar problem. Is it any wonder, then, that the standards of education in our public universities, where millions of students from poor and disadvantaged backgrounds study, are rock bottom? How does China fare in this regard? I got to know some broad facts from a friend, an Indian who has been teaching at a technology university in southern China. He said: “After completing my Ph D from another university, I have been teaching here for the past 20 years. I have witnessed a dramatic improvement under every parameter of the university education system in China. They now aspire to be the best in the world.” According to him, corruption had crept into the education sector in China after it opened up its economy to reforms and foreign investment in the early 1980s. As GDP began to grow at double-digit speed, consumerism boomed and people wanted to get rich quickly. There was fierce competition among students to enter good universities and land high-paying jobs. “Bribery manifested itself in the form of students giving expensive gifts to teachers in expectation of high marks in exams. There was also some degree of corruption in…